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Apathy vs. Depression

What’s the difference?   “Apathy and depression are two conditions that have been studied extensively in psychology. Apathy refers to the lack of interest that can be seen in a person. Depression, on the other hand, is a psychological condition where a person loses interest in daily activities and feels hopeless.” (differencebetween.com) So how does…

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Grief…No one can do it for you

I recently posted this piece on my FB page DCPutnam Consulting.  The posting received more than 2,300 hits and obviously had a huge impact on my readers. I want to include it here so others may see it in the future.  (Double click on diagram to enlarge.) *****     *****     *****     *****     ***** This diagram was…

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Making Good Memories

I have just returned from a dream-trip of a lifetime.  This trip has been on my “bucket list” for years and I will carry the memories with me forever… so many over the top experiences. I’ve known for my 20+ years of working in the dementia field, that there are many family members who think…

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Brain Fog

BRAIN FOG ~ Brain Fog is one of the realities caregivers deal with, along with experiencing fatigue, guilt, anxiety, grief, stress, “I can do it myself” syndrome and denial… etc… etc… etc. So what is brain fog and how do we see it exhibiting itself in caregivers? I recently lost my husband of 51 years,…

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Part 2: Positive Tips for Communicating

Today I want to look at #6 on this chart “Never say ‘I told you,’ instead Repeat/Regroup.”  (Take a look at my blog for 3.24.17 to get more details regarding #1 arguing.) So what does that quote mean to a caregiver who is soooo frustrated because (she) has answered the same question for the billionth…

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A Healthy Environment

Yesterday afternoon (1.12.17) I attended a 90 minute webinar sponsored by AFTD – The Association of Frontotemporal Degeneration.  As a facilitator for a FTD support group,  and soon to be the New England Regional Coordinator (volunteer) for AFTD, its important that I continue to learn and expand my knowledge base. The educational program was geared…

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What is Your “Plan B?”

“Plan B” – What do I mean by that phrase? As a caregiver for your spouse, you are currently living “Plan A.”   If you are the primary caregiver, you are most likely a woman and have total responsibility for your husband’s care.  You might have some assistance from your children, or perhaps a neighbor might…

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Starbuck’s Lament by Jed Waverly

  Starbuck’s Lament by Jed Waverly   Sleeping soundly as the clatter of pans and spirited voices create a din, He is oblivious to the chaos around him, embraced in the arms of Morpheus. Protected from worldly concern and calamity, he rests in the comfort of cushioned leather, His hand tremor slow, not demanded for…

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DOES HOSPICE MEAN GRANDPA IS DYING?

That is a valid question that grandchildren, and their parents, will ask. Many people react to the word “Hospice” like we used to react to the word “cancer.” It was the “C” word and no one wanted to say it out loud. Back in the 1980’s Alzheimer’s was the “A” word and no one wanted…

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PLACEMENT OPTIONS

“Dad has Alzheimer’s and I can’t take care of him any longer, I guess I’m going to have to put him in a nursing home,” says a daughter who is the primary person caring for her Dad. There was a time when this might have been true. However, in 2014, we have options that didn’t…

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