Emotions

Perspective….

What does this photo have to do with caregivers or patients dealing with any number of medical issues? It occurred to me when I saw this photo that life is all about perspective, isn’t it?  Where we stand, what we see, how we feel, what is our commitment, what is our guilt or denial level.…

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What About Non-caregivers?

  Why is it that in so many families it is just one person who is providing the majority of the care? Statistically it is usually, but not always, is a female. And usually it’s the oldest daughter or the daughter who lives the closest.   So where are all the other siblings? If you…

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Grief…No one can do it for you

I recently posted this piece on my FB page DCPutnam Consulting.  The posting received more than 2,300 hits and obviously had a huge impact on my readers. I want to include it here so others may see it in the future.  (Double click on diagram to enlarge.) *****     *****     *****     *****     ***** This diagram was…

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PATRIOTS ~ ~ NFL ~ ~ CTE

Aaron Hernandez’s autopsy has proven that when he died at age 27,  he had Stage 3 of 4 stages of CTE ! CTE is Chronic Traumatic Encephalophy. Hernandez was a player with the New England Patriot’s prior to his suicidal death. We’ve all heard this phrase ~ CTE ~ over the past few years as…

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Making Good Memories

I have just returned from a dream-trip of a lifetime.  This trip has been on my “bucket list” for years and I will carry the memories with me forever… so many over the top experiences. I’ve known for my 20+ years of working in the dementia field, that there are many family members who think…

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Brain Fog

BRAIN FOG ~ Brain Fog is one of the realities caregivers deal with, along with experiencing fatigue, guilt, anxiety, grief, stress, “I can do it myself” syndrome and denial… etc… etc… etc. So what is brain fog and how do we see it exhibiting itself in caregivers? I recently lost my husband of 51 years,…

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Positive Tips for Communicating (1)

I recently posted this chart on my FB page (DCPutnam Consulting  4.22.17) and to date it has had almost 1,500 hits.  That tells me that this information is important to caregivers.  So I want to go into more detail as to what this all means. This is a wonderful guide for family members, professional caregivers…

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Verbal Abuse

There are many family caregivers (and professional caregivers) who don’t understand what is physically happening to the brain and therefore don’t know how to communicate with their loved one. There are certain things you do and do not say to someone with Alzheimer’s or some form of dementia. Consequently this lack of understanding can lead…

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Importance of Support Groups

Many people question if they should attend a support group.  There are many valid reasons why caregivers find support groups to be helpful in managing their day to day life with someone with Alzheimer’s disease or one of the related dementias. So let’s take a look at the advantages of participating in a monthly Alzheimer’s…

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What is Your “Plan B?”

“Plan B” – What do I mean by that phrase? As a caregiver for your spouse, you are currently living “Plan A.”   If you are the primary caregiver, you are most likely a woman and have total responsibility for your husband’s care.  You might have some assistance from your children, or perhaps a neighbor might…

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