Communicating

Grief…No one can do it for you

I recently posted this piece on my FB page DCPutnam Consulting.  The posting received more than 2,300 hits and obviously had a huge impact on my readers. I want to include it here so others may see it in the future.  (Double click on diagram to enlarge.) *****     *****     *****     *****     ***** This diagram was…

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Brain Fog

BRAIN FOG ~ Brain Fog is one of the realities caregivers deal with, along with experiencing fatigue, guilt, anxiety, grief, stress, “I can do it myself” syndrome and denial… etc… etc… etc. So what is brain fog and how do we see it exhibiting itself in caregivers? I recently lost my husband of 51 years,…

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Part 2: Positive Tips for Communicating

Today I want to look at #6 on this chart “Never say ‘I told you,’ instead Repeat/Regroup.”  (Take a look at my blog for 3.24.17 to get more details regarding #1 arguing.) So what does that quote mean to a caregiver who is soooo frustrated because (she) has answered the same question for the billionth…

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Verbal Abuse

There are many family caregivers (and professional caregivers) who don’t understand what is physically happening to the brain and therefore don’t know how to communicate with their loved one. There are certain things you do and do not say to someone with Alzheimer’s or some form of dementia. Consequently this lack of understanding can lead…

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Importance of Support Groups

Many people question if they should attend a support group.  There are many valid reasons why caregivers find support groups to be helpful in managing their day to day life with someone with Alzheimer’s disease or one of the related dementias. So let’s take a look at the advantages of participating in a monthly Alzheimer’s…

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Starbuck’s Lament by Jed Waverly

  Starbuck’s Lament by Jed Waverly   Sleeping soundly as the clatter of pans and spirited voices create a din, He is oblivious to the chaos around him, embraced in the arms of Morpheus. Protected from worldly concern and calamity, he rests in the comfort of cushioned leather, His hand tremor slow, not demanded for…

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We have a Choice!

“Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time.”  “I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as…

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Secrecy ~ To Tell or Not to Tell

The Burden of Secrecy, by Bonnie Bigalke May 11, 2015          Guest Blogger: Bonnie Bigalke, MSW, LCSW, Early Stage Care Consultant Alzheimer’s Association MA/NH Chapter   Secrecy is a seven letter word that implies negativity, underhandedness, trouble. Secrets knot up our stomachs and cloud our judgement. Secrets are sedentary boulders that overtime get buried with layers…

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